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Success is a Science (Part 10)

Continuing in our series (click here to read previous parts)…

Chapter 6: Application #3 – Love

The circle of love is all about people. Before we talk specifically about the people in your life, first we need to make a distinction. Some motivational books advise you to tell no one about your heart’s desires so that you don’t open yourself to discouragement from negative minds. Some motivational books encourage you to tell everyone so that all of the people that can help you present themselves readily.

If you were to follow one rule about sharing your inspiration with other people, it would be this: “Only share this information with people who are above the line.” And do share it with the right people.

Above the line people are the only people that you’ll probably want in your life anyway. They are people that are honest, trustworthy and loyal. They spend most of their life above the line of truth. They are what are commonly referred to as “positive people.”

You will naturally attract more people that are above the line and less people that are below the line as you work on keeping yourself above the line.

In the circle of love, there are 3 different types of relationships. They are all very different, but they are all ways of experiencing and expressing love.  Picture 3 overlapping circles, with one of the following words in each circle:




A sexual relationship is obviously very different than the relationship you would have with a family member or a friend. However, a sexual relationship when combined with a friendship could turn into a life partnership where you could then create a family together. So you can see how each of these areas overlaps.

The one thing that all of these areas have in common is that like attracts like. So, if you’re not in a sexual relationship and you would like to be, then the best thing to do is make a list of all of the qualities you want in a partner and then develop those qualities in yourself.

The extent to which you develop those qualities in yourself will be the extent to which you can attract another person with those qualities that you desire.

The same is true for friends.  Make a list of all the qualities that you value in a friend and then simply set a goal to become the friend that you desire. The Law of Attraction can then easily draw to you the type of people that you want to surround yourself with.

For those relationships that you’re already in, whether they are a sexual relationship, family or friends, the way you improve those relationships is by focusing your appreciation journaling on the positive aspects of the person and then allowing the Law of Attraction to help you experience more of that quality in the relationship.

How to Improve an Existing Relationship 

Many people experience problems in their primary relationships, so they go to a therapist and talk about their problems.

In Chapter 1, we said that what you focus on gets bigger. So what happens to their problems? They get bigger!

There is a very simple and very powerful way to bring the love back into any relationship and grow it more than ever before. Here it is:

Each person sits facing each other. For five minutes, Partner A looks Partner B in the eyes and says all the things about the partner he or she appreciates.

Then you switch around and Partner B spends five minutes telling Partner A all the things he/she appreciates about Partner A.

The next step is that each person takes turns going back and forth saying one thing that he/she appreciates about the relationship for five minutes.

The 15-minute shared appreciation exercise, if performed just once, can be enough to transform a relationship completely. If it’s performed several times a week, it will build a bond of love so strong that nothing can break it.

This is the correct application of the Law of Attraction, because as we said, what you focus on gets bigger, and if you want love to get bigger, this is how you focus on it. It’s that simple.

When you focus on the good in people, people tend to share only the best that’s in them with you because like attracts like. And what you focus on is what you get.

Over time, you will find that your false friends will just fall away, almost without you noticing it, and your real friendships will develop into deep meaningful life-long relationships where you bring out the best in each other.

I’d like to close with a quote from John Goodey:

            The love we give is our legacy.

            It is passed on endlessly from one

            person to the next and lives forever.

Until next time,

Connie Kvilhaug, Cert. Hypnotist
Mindset Trainer & Coach